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I love true stories from people who have used the Law of Attraction to attract what they wanted (or sometimes what they did not because they weren’t using it consciously!). These people often start off as skeptics like me, and yet they ended up with irrefutable proof of the power of the Universe in reaping what they focused on. I just finished a great book of LOA tips and stories called Life Lessons for Mastering the Law of Attraction. I will say it is missing great tips on finding love so some time spent reading Sex and the Universe is definitely a worthwhile endeavor!
The book is part of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and is a basic “how to” guide for the Law of Attraction coupled with some pretty intriguing anecdotes on a variety of experiences using LOA. Some of the writers stumbled upon the laws accidentally, some had been familiar for years but had just not considered using them for their current situation. Many of the stories are “last chance” stories…the writers had nothing to lose by trying the laws to heal their current situations. A great story by Amy Scott Grant called “The Day I Ran Out of Money” is one of the brilliant examples of how the universe provides, and has always, and always will!
Again, there is far more focus on money, business and career than love in the book, but it is still awe inspiring and should be a part of your Law of Attraction library! (You have one, right?)
I take for granted that my readers believe in the Law of Attraction and have a basic familiarity with it. Perhaps I am wrong? Maybe many of you are skeptics, here to see what we “hippy dippy new age” types are up to? I can understand that. I was a skeptic too. To take in the awesome power of the Law of Attraction, especially when seeking the love of your life, is a pretty tall order. I have a challenge for you.
Take the next 60 days and write down 3 goals: one financial, one relational and one wild card goal of your choice. Write down where you are NOW in relationship to that goal and then put in a date and write down where you are when we are done with the challenge in 60 days. I want you to see if you moved closer…
I’m going to do it with you. In 60 days I want an unexpected $1000 in my pocket. This extra $1000 must not be anything I (or you) currently expect in the form of payment for services, rebates, commissions, birthday gifts, etc. Regarding relationships, I would like to find a new, really good friend in the next 60 days….someone I don’t know at all but who is an incredibly good fit for me (I have a lover so no need for that). Finally, I want to have WITHOUT trying lost an additional 5 pounds. I’m not making a plan for it (like reducing my yummy coffee drink intake or consciously increasing my exercise).
Step one we’ll cover today. I’m going to write down all the possible ways these things COULD happen in 60 days and I want YOU to do the same.
MONEY:
1. I could receive several unexpected refunds of monies already paid that equal or exceed $1000. 2. I could get new clients or speaking engagements and my fees could equal or exceed $1000. 3. I could receive that money as a gift that I am not expecting. 4.I could enter a contest and win. 5. I could JUST FIND THE MONEY.
RELATIONSHIP
1. I could join a group and meet someone I really like. 2. I could put an ad out for a new friend on a free site like craigslist. 3. I could meet someone through an existing friend. 4. I could bump into someone someplace and just strike up a conversation.
WEIGHT
Who knows? This one is a wild card? I’m just going to weigh myself and report the results.
These are the first steps. We’ll check back in in a few days to go over the next steps.
NOW, skeptics will be saying that, especially when it comes to the relationship goal, I’m doing the work. AND THEY’D BE RIGHT. The Law of Attraction does not work well in a vacuum. The more action you put into it the more results you’ll see! BUT, if I do the same things without the proper attitude, I’m much less likely to see the best results.
So, get yourself a notebook and write your three things down. Then write some possibilities (no matter how outlandish!) on how this MIGHT happen down (this helps you see the reality that odd, unexpected things DO occur all the time). Let me know below what some of your goals are so we can all send good thoughts your way.
In the meantime, my ebook Sex and the Universe, will soon actually be a physical book. I’ll keep you updated!
I came across a Twitter tweet from Sam Crowley that said “Saturday night is always date night for Mr. and Mrs. Crowley. Off to our favorite restaurant.” If you don’t know what a Twitter tweet is, please go here. If you do already, read on! We talk a lot here at our Sex and the Universe blog about finding, but also keeping love and this tweet struck me as both very sweet and very important. When you use the Law of Attraction, or if you already have, to find the love of your life, you must invest an equal amount of time, if not more, in letting your mate know how much you care and how important they are. “Date night”, especially when you have children and busy careers, is one way to really share this message, but what are some others?
One of the first things to go in long-term relationships seems to be common courtesy. It gets awfully easy to be lazy and not treat your loved one as a dear friend, at minimum. I have a friend who says that having her husband bring in a cup of coffee each morning while she is trying to wake up is one of the smallest and yet most important ways that he says “I love you”. It starts her day off feeling cared for! One busy wife always cooks Sunday morning breakfast and she and her husband share it in bed, no kids! They’ve done this since they were first married. Do you still say please and thank you? Do you leave a fresh towel in the bathroom if you’ve used the last one (or another roll of toilet paper)? Do you let your lover sleep in while you let the pets out first thing in the morning? These are all examples of common courtesies that go a very long way towards building a strong and lasting relationship.
Another category is the element of surprise! Are you ever waiting for your honey when they get off of work to surprise them with a dinner out or concert tickets? Are you actively (though not cloyingly) observing the things your partner loves or dreams of? Part of loving someone is trying to help make their dreams come true. What dreams are you helping with? They can be small…if your boyfriend is working really hard, sneak in and clean up for them a bit or take the car to the car wash. The list is endless.
Regardless, this is a lifelong endeavor as Mr. and Mrs. Crowley have indicated. Yes, the Law of Attraction helps draw and keep your lover but you have to commit to the daily work as well. I’d love to hear what you do to keep your love alive (or what you’ve witnessed others do?)!
Need some help? This is a great hypnosis style video for visualizing what you want (a new partner?) to manifest. If you have any suggestions for other videos like this, let me know! And be sure to let me know what you think about the video and if it was helpful to you…
If you are looking for a great book on managing your physical health, Oprah’s doc (Dr. Oz) has co-authored a best selling guide not to just fitness and nutrition but understanding how our bodies work. The book is subtitled:An Insider’s Guide to the Body that Will Make You Healthier and Younger and we all want that, right? When you are seeking the love of your life, you need to work towards improving your healt. You want a healthy partner and they deserve the same.
You: The Owner’s Manual takes you on a full tour of the body with a discussion of each system, how disease starts, what small lifestyle changes you can make to prevent disease, encourages you to start adding in exercise (no surprise here!) and how to assess your diet to make improvement. Readers love it! It is funny and informative and should probably sit on everyone’s book shelf as a reference guide. If you are “starting over” in your quest to find your soul mate, add this important read to Sex and the Universe as a way to get you jump started towards love (and health)!
Drinking coffee and listening to music when this tune popped up. The chorus struck me: “To find someone you love, you gotta be someone you love!” How appropriate is that to our ongoing discussion about finding your soul mate. I had to share it! Learning to love yourself is tricky business, but as with all things in the Universe, if we focus our attention on the positive, we attract more good and positive experiences. Don’t you want a partner who feels good about who they are? Why should your partner want anything different?
Treat yourself as if you were a good friend. If you are sick, show care. If you are sad, show care. Cheer yourself up the best you can with a good meal, a great movie, a nice walk.
Focus on your accomplishments. Make a list of everything good that you have done in your life (this should take time). Maybe write down a few things every day to build up the list that encompasses your life. Remember when you cared for someone or you were praised at work? Write it down.
Create a “tickle” file. When someone says something nice about you or you get a nice card from someone, toss it in the file. Reference letters from work, thank you cards, emails, all of this can go in to remind yourself of what a great person you really are!
Tell your friends you are trying to love yourself more and ask them to email you what they think you have done for them, what your great qualities are, and why they enjoy your company!
Read my ebook, Sex and the Universe, to learn more ways of using the Law of Attraction to increase your self-esteem and self-love!
Hello all! I’ve just created a basic social network to expand our discussion on Sex and the Universe and I hope you will all stop by and share your thoughts, ideas, stories, and questions! I’m also about to launch on Facebook and I’m on Twitter at sextheuniverse (note: sex AND the universe had too many characters to look for it this way). We’re developing a MySpace page, and I’m on FriendFeed at sexandtheuniverse. Please add to the rosters so you can find out about upcoming events, speaking engagements, and stories from our readers!
Thanks to my blog and book readers! I look forward to hearing from you!
I’ve spoken before about creating a dream board to help you manifest what you want in your life including your soul mate, utilizing the Law of Attraction and my ebook, Sex and the Universe. I found a great video (there are actually several examples on YouTube) of making one and thought you would enjoy!
A vision board is a very powerful thing. Pam, in the video, will talk about just being pulled towards certain images and not knowing why. Perhaps you see a photo of a man in argyle socks and you’ve never really felt anything about argyle socks but this photo does something to you. Cut it out! You are drawn there for a reason. Add powerful phrases and quotes as well. It’s all in the video and definitely worth your time!
I reference this great ebook a great deal here on the blog. I am driven with the desire to help everyone find what I have found: true love! The information in the book is the result of my life experience and my interviews of other people who have utilized the Law of Attraction to attract their soul mate. I did extensive research to develop the easy, usable tools in the book. I start off with a basic education on the Laws of Attraction, how and why they work. And trust me, they do! The difference, though, between what I do and what others have done in sharing these ancient techniques with the world is to really focus on what you can do RIGHT NOW to start attracting LOVE.
The book is very action oriented! The LOA will only work if you take the “next steps” required to find love. Changing your thinking, your words, and being grateful for what the Universe has already delivered are tremendously important, but unless you DO SOMETHING, nothing will happen. Doing the steps send a message that is stronger than thoughts or words to the Universe and, as you go into action, it will as well! So, as one chapter says, Get Off the Couch! Now!
Much of the book is devoted to building love and joy about yourself, your life, your accomplishments. I want you to feel revitalized before your new love arrives! This energy that you exude goes out into the world and increases your power in utilizing the Laws. I discuss health and fitness, making a space in your home for that new love, and putting yourself out into the world. Then once you and your soul mate have met, how do you sustain that “love rush” as you establish a solid, long-term relationship? I’ll help you answer that, both in the book and here on the blog.
So head on over to the site and check it out. You will receive a free audio of my discussing the Law of Attraction and what you can expect to gain by following this program! Once you’ve started experiencing what your heart truly desires, leave me a comment and tell me about it here on the blog!
An article in the online version of the New Zealand Herald is surely going to stir up some controversy. It is about improving mood disorders and increasing happiness without the use of medication (sounds a bit like the Tom and Brooke incident). I’m not going to debate that topic here! BUT the doctors who wrote the book the article is about do have some great tips on nutrition, relationships, stress and happiness that relate to topics discussed here and in the book. Let’s look at a few:
One of my favourites is to reduce or eliminate text messaging. Ok, I’ll expand this to say reduce technology in general! Obviously don’t eliminate it or you won’t be here or reading my great ebook on finding your soul mate, BUT we spend an inordinate amount of time on the Internet, texting and instant messaging friends, updating Twitter, talking on cell phones and watching TV. It is all very fast paced and stress inducing.
Letting go of materialism and celebrity worship was also suggested, pointing out that comparing ourselves to how others look and what they have leads to decreased happiness and depression. Anything that improves self-esteem (losing weight, new clothes, a new hairstyle…anyone read the Mojo post?) increases happiness.
They spend a great deal of time discussing nutrition as well. They suggest a bowl of porridge at bedtime, but any complex carbohydrate (remember Potatoes, Not Prozac from many years ago?) has been shown to help sleep and mood. Adding omega-3 fatty fish at breakfast (or perhaps a capsule?) and eating seaweed are also suggested.
And, no surprise, they point out that those who invest their time and energy in face-to-face relationships versus online relationships, career or the pursuit of more stuff, are happier.
So, go make a real friend, get your haircut and eat a potato! While you are at it, have a look at the ebook for more ways to build personal happiness and find your soul mate!
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