I love true stories from people who have used the Law of Attraction to attract what they wanted (or sometimes what they did not because they weren’t using it consciously!). These people often start off as skeptics like me, and yet they ended up with irrefutable proof of the power of the Universe in reaping what they focused on. I just finished a great book of LOA tips and stories called Life Lessons for Mastering the Law of Attraction. I will say it is missing great tips on finding love so some time spent reading Sex and the Universe is definitely a worthwhile endeavor!
The book is part of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and is a basic “how to” guide for the Law of Attraction coupled with some pretty intriguing anecdotes on a variety of experiences using LOA. Some of the writers stumbled upon the laws accidentally, some had been familiar for years but had just not considered using them for their current situation. Many of the stories are “last chance” stories…the writers had nothing to lose by trying the laws to heal their current situations. A great story by Amy Scott Grant called “The Day I Ran Out of Money” is one of the brilliant examples of how the universe provides, and has always, and always will!
Again, there is far more focus on money, business and career than love in the book, but it is still awe inspiring and should be a part of your Law of Attraction library! (You have one, right?)
Need some help? This is a great hypnosis style video for visualizing what you want (a new partner?) to manifest. If you have any suggestions for other videos like this, let me know! And be sure to let me know what you think about the video and if it was helpful to you…
Many of us have been devastated by a painful divorce. At a certain age, you’ve got about a 50% chance of that being part of your history. I know. I’ve been there. I sat stuck in the mire for awhile (which is a healthy stage) and then I started investigating ways to move on. I found the Law of Attraction during this time and decided that I wanted real, authentic love back in my life. But there are some things you can do to make your transition to your new life easier.
Give yourself time to grieve. Grief has no shelf life but mental health therapists say you can take the time to grieve post trauma or grief will track you down later. Give yourself the time you need to cry, sleep, suffer. This is part of the human condition. Feel free to find a therapist to help you sort through this time and to ensure that you haven’t slipped into a real depression.
Remember it takes two people to cause a marriage to fail. Don’t pull all of the guilt and shame of its demise onto yourself. Realize that just because this (or several) relationships have failed you are not sentenced to a lifetime without love! I’m here to teach you the Law of Attraction tools to reinvent yourself AND to find your real soul mate.
Be sure to focus on the good times you have in the marriage. Its end doesn’t mean those times were false. Celebrate what you had together (perhaps children?).
Plan a private (or public) ceremony of some kind that signifies that this phase of your life is over and you are ready to rise up and conquer! We have ceremonies for so many things, happy and sad, yet no real event accompanies the end of a marriage. Make it positive! While you are rebuilding your life read books like How to Survive the Loss of a Love and Sex and the Universe to help you move forward!
Drinking coffee and listening to music when this tune popped up. The chorus struck me: “To find someone you love, you gotta be someone you love!” How appropriate is that to our ongoing discussion about finding your soul mate. I had to share it! Learning to love yourself is tricky business, but as with all things in the Universe, if we focus our attention on the positive, we attract more good and positive experiences. Don’t you want a partner who feels good about who they are? Why should your partner want anything different?
Treat yourself as if you were a good friend. If you are sick, show care. If you are sad, show care. Cheer yourself up the best you can with a good meal, a great movie, a nice walk.
Focus on your accomplishments. Make a list of everything good that you have done in your life (this should take time). Maybe write down a few things every day to build up the list that encompasses your life. Remember when you cared for someone or you were praised at work? Write it down.
Create a “tickle” file. When someone says something nice about you or you get a nice card from someone, toss it in the file. Reference letters from work, thank you cards, emails, all of this can go in to remind yourself of what a great person you really are!
Tell your friends you are trying to love yourself more and ask them to email you what they think you have done for them, what your great qualities are, and why they enjoy your company!
Read my ebook, Sex and the Universe, to learn more ways of using the Law of Attraction to increase your self-esteem and self-love!
Living a life of joyful expectation. Think about that. I found that phrase somewhere years ago and had it pinned up for a really long time. What are you expecting? If I asked you “what do you expect to happen to you today?” would it be good. Are you living in happy anticipation of love, money, health and all your heart desires, knowing it is on it’s way…or are you HOPING it is? The Law of Attraction wants you to be anticipating the best of everything…
Are you expecting it to be hard to find love because you are over 40, divorced and perhaps very afraid? Change your expectations and you will change your results. Are you expecting to be let down or do you wake up in the morning anticipating the miracles the Universe is ready to send your way? Do you track those mini-miracles in your gratitude journal each night. Each little success, each flirtatious moment, the glance from the gentleman at the grocery, the touch of a hand from the girl at the video store…all of these are signs you are putting out the right kind of energy.
I reference this great ebook a great deal here on the blog. I am driven with the desire to help everyone find what I have found: true love! The information in the book is the result of my life experience and my interviews of other people who have utilized the Law of Attraction to attract their soul mate. I did extensive research to develop the easy, usable tools in the book. I start off with a basic education on the Laws of Attraction, how and why they work. And trust me, they do! The difference, though, between what I do and what others have done in sharing these ancient techniques with the world is to really focus on what you can do RIGHT NOW to start attracting LOVE.
The book is very action oriented! The LOA will only work if you take the “next steps” required to find love. Changing your thinking, your words, and being grateful for what the Universe has already delivered are tremendously important, but unless you DO SOMETHING, nothing will happen. Doing the steps send a message that is stronger than thoughts or words to the Universe and, as you go into action, it will as well! So, as one chapter says, Get Off the Couch! Now!
Much of the book is devoted to building love and joy about yourself, your life, your accomplishments. I want you to feel revitalized before your new love arrives! This energy that you exude goes out into the world and increases your power in utilizing the Laws. I discuss health and fitness, making a space in your home for that new love, and putting yourself out into the world. Then once you and your soul mate have met, how do you sustain that “love rush” as you establish a solid, long-term relationship? I’ll help you answer that, both in the book and here on the blog.
So head on over to the site and check it out. You will receive a free audio of my discussing the Law of Attraction and what you can expect to gain by following this program! Once you’ve started experiencing what your heart truly desires, leave me a comment and tell me about it here on the blog!
I stumbled across a great post about giving the Universe a “task list” and I wanted to share it with you! The Law of Attraction, as I’ve discussed in Sex and the Universe, isn’t remotely mysterious. It’s in constant motion and is giving you the things you’ve asked for: either out right or by dwelling on them. Sometimes this is good (you have your dream board, you’ve feng-shui’d your bedroom in preparation for love)…and sometimes we aren’t conscious of the messages we are sending. This exercise is very helpful in letting the Universe know what you need help with.
When you are feeling overwhelmed or like things aren’t moving in the direction you want, make a list. The list should be of things you have to handle (and know how to) and things you are unclear on or need help with (the Universe’s list). When it comes to love your list might look like this:
ME
Paint bedroom
Post online profile
Get haircut
UNIVERSE
Help me become more outgoing
Find additional social activities where my potential soul mate is waiting
Deliver a source of funds to fix the broken air conditioner so my feng shui functions smoothly
It’s a great exercise because we often try to control every detail instead of requesting it from the Universe and then believing the answer will be delivered. Try this and let me know your results in the comments section below! You can find out more about attracting the love you deserve into your life here.
We know from the Law of Attraction that what we think about is most likely what we’ll receive. Our thoughts get manifested into reality. Changing your thinking is like building a new muscle. It CAN be done. I talk about this at the very beginning of Sex and the Universe, but let’s look a little closer on some ways to do this.
First you have to practice actually noticing your thoughts. Set a timer on your watch, cell phone, the microwave, whatever for about 30 minutes at a time. Go about your business but when that timer goes off ask yourself what you were thinking about. Keep a list handy to write these thoughts down, but be sure to go to the next step immediately…
If the thought was negative, reword the thought in your mind AND on paper(i.e. "I don’t have time for all this!" to "I’m in the process of completing my tasks with ease."). Focus on allowing this change to enter your consciousness. Breathe and focus.
If you find yourself in the middle of a pervasive patch of negative thinking, a visual clue can help. Say to yourself, loudly (outloud if possible) STOP! and visualise a big red STOP SIGN. Again, stop your activity for a moment, think of a positive re-statement and say it, think it and write it.
Spend time with someone who is positive and ask them what they do when they are feeling negative. Likely their wording in their minds is very different from yours.
Carry your positive thoughts with you. You probably have a core set of 10 or so negative statements that keep coming around in your head. They might be about your looks, about love, about money, about time, about career, or any number of other things. Once you’ve reworded some of these statements into positives, write those key statements down and carry them with you. Throughout the day, pull that list out and spend some time with it.
Negative thinking is simply a bad habit. Our culture is built around bad news and negativity and feeling "less than" if you don’t fit a certain mold. It’s a challenge to change this pattern, but once you have an awareness of these thoughts, that is the first step in changing them.
During one date, just one little date, there is so much information that can be put right out there on the table about each person. Maybe that is why there are so many dates that never result in a second date. Using the Law of Attraction says that you will attract what you are focusing on. Let’s discuss what that means for a minute, wouldn’t that mean that if you think negatively or focus on the negative aspects of your life, you will receive negative things in return. But, if you do the opposite then the opposite will come your way.
Although it may seem quite simple, especially in the world of dating, I assure you it is not as easy as it seems. Almost everyone has had at least one date with someone who was hell bent on every negative part of their life and felt that they needed to share every detail. It doesn’t matter if this person was dripping in sexiness and was nothing short of a ten in the looks category. Looks can really only get you so far and relationships that fall short of real attraction barely ever succeed.
Yep, one date can tell so much about you, how you live, how you work, and often what type of lover you will be too. If you are seeking a relationship and at the same time implementing the Law of Attraction you will be able to only focus on good things, the good parts of dating by just being excited to meet someone new.
Think of some of the negative things that you could say or focus on that might give your date a bad first impression. Now these are things that speak volumes and would not be coming out of your mouth if you were using the Law of Attraction. Talking about past dates at all but especially in a negative manner, how much you dislike your job, whining about getting up early the next day, being cheap, being overly aggressive, etc. Not many girls are going to enjoy this and are going to think that you are cheap and lazy.
You would not be speaking and acting this way if you were focusing on how great it was to be out with someone new, finding out a little about them and what they like to do. Just being grateful for the moments of that evening and that is what will get you a next date card. Think all positive and nothing negative and see how far it is going to get you!
