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Need some help? This is a great hypnosis style video for visualizing what you want (a new partner?) to manifest. If you have any suggestions for other videos like this, let me know! And be sure to let me know what you think about the video and if it was helpful to you…
Drinking coffee and listening to music when this tune popped up. The chorus struck me: “To find someone you love, you gotta be someone you love!” How appropriate is that to our ongoing discussion about finding your soul mate. I had to share it! Learning to love yourself is tricky business, but as with all things in the Universe, if we focus our attention on the positive, we attract more good and positive experiences. Don’t you want a partner who feels good about who they are? Why should your partner want anything different?
Is your heart still pounding when you see your soul mate? Do you still get shivers down your spine when they look at you that special way? Do you still get butterflies thinking about them? Yes? Fantastic. Want to keep those passionate moments going? Read on for hints to keep your romance hot and heavy.
Not sure? “Can’t remember those feelings.” “Seems like a long time ago.” “That was in the beginning.” “It is normal for those feelings to go away.” Are any of these thoughts crossing your mind? If so, you should probably keep reading.
The Law of Attraction can be used to keep the attraction and passion alive and strong in your relationship. In fact, instead of diminishing, the principles of the Law of Attraction can be used to keep those shivers down the spine alive and well. Those concepts that attracted you to each other in the first place, can be utilized to keep the attraction going strong.
* Good vibrations aren’t just the words to a Beach Boys song. We are talking about all those pleasurable sensations that are associated with an enjoyable time in the bedroom. Harnessing all those enjoyable feelings when you are with your soul mate will attract more of those feelings into your life. The more good times that you have, the more good things that will be coming your way.
* Communication is vital in any healthy relationship. Let your partner know what you enjoy and encourage them to share their feelings with you. If something is upsetting it is probably even more important to talk about it, than what rocks your boat. Even your soul mate is not a mind reader.
* Open minded. Being open minded in a relationship with your soul mate is important. You and your partner should be able to feel free to make suggestions to spice things up a little. If the suggestion is not your style, you should be under no pressure to participate. However, instead of replying “not till Hell freezes over” or “over my dead body” perhaps a little more subtlety would be helpful. Instead of a flat “No” what about making a suggestion of your own? This lets your partner know that you are open to ideas, maybe just not some of the more outrageous ones.
It is important to remember that your relationship is a two way street and that you should be both enjoying enjoying yourselves.
* Forgiveness. The Law of Attraction states that forgiveness must be a total experience. It is not just good enough to say “I forgive you” and hold a grudge. You need to empty your heart and your mind of the transgression and move on with your life. Holding grudges only returns negative feelings and thoughts.
Use the principles of the Law of Attraction to keep your romance with your soul mate hot and heavy. The concepts that attracted you to each other initially are the exact same ones that you should use to keep your passion strong.
Likely many of you are familiar with social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook and you may have noticed that these sites are geared more to those college-aged or younger. LinkedIn is another social site but it is geared towards career. Well, there is a new social site called TeeBeeDee that is targeted for those of us over 40! Great idea, especially given this age group is very large. It is NOT a dating site like Match.com but a social networking site to meet friends, discuss topics, and get to know people which is a great tool if you are actively manifesting love in your life.
TeeBeeDee has an attractive interface that is uncluttered. It is easy to set up a profile and to start joining discussions on topics like dating, married life, sex over 40, travel, spirituality, health and many others. They have groups like “The Challenges of Being Single”, “Online Dating”, “Going Back to College”, and “Starting Your Own Business”. There are many options to find people you have things in common with, to locate events, and to expand your social circle.
TeeBeeDee just received a huge investment about 1 year ago and is still growing so its Australia members are limited in number. However, the site is expected to grow exponentially so it is a great place to add your info and start conversations. I’m always on the look out for ways to help you meet your true love! TeeBeeDee looks promising.
You have met your soul mate. Now you live happily ever after. Well, perhaps, but not if you don’t put some energy into your relationship. Many couples assume that it is perfectly natural to eventually become one of those couples that stays in, has pizza, and the most exciting question of the night is which movie to watch on cable. Does this sound like your relationship?
While companionship is a great sign of a healthy relationship, many couples can fall into the trap of becoming a little too complacent. There can be a fine line between a great relationship and a boring relationship. Do you find yourself sitting up in bed working on your laptop or watching reruns on the TV, or are you still swinging from the chandeliers?
While not every couple wants to be performing bedroom aerobics forever, passion and romance are important in any stage of a healthy relationship. Feeling comfortable and at ease with your soul mate is a fantastic feeling. However, couples at this point have to be extremely careful that when they reach this comfort zone they do not stop trying.
Remember all those romantic sweet things you did for each other in the beginning? Why stop? They made you feel good doing them, just as they felt good for your partner receiving them. Gratitude and appreciation are two hugely important factors in a happy partnership. You were grateful when this fantastic person arrived in your life. You appreciated their great qualities. Six months, or a year down the track, that person is still the person that you were so thankful to meet. Keep showing them that.
Those couples who are time or sleep challenged need to take a leaf out of all those celebrity books. Make yourself couple time. If you have to, write it in your diary or Blackberry. Give yourselves a set night of the week just for the two of you. Maybe you just want to go out for a simple meal. Perhaps you want a massage for your sore neck.
As time goes on you will be able to set yourself little rules for your special time. Examples include turning off cell phones and computers, or no TV, or candles only. Whatever works for the pair of you. You will find that you will start to look forward to your romantic time together. Perhaps you can start a mental list of things you would like to do or places you want to go. Before too long you will wonder how you ever got by without your couple time.
You can live happily ever after. It takes work to keep the passion alive in a healthy relationship. Don’t let relationship complacency blow out the sparks of romance with your soul mate. Every couple needs romance, fun and passion to keep a relationship happy and blossoming.
The Law of Attraction works equally as powerfully within a relationship as when you are waiting for your soul mate. Those factors that brought your soul mate to you still need to be in force to keep your relationship happy and strong. What were those points, I hear you asking yourself? Well, for those who have forgotten, need a reminder, or are new to the Law of Attraction and are keen to start applying it their lives, here we go:
* Gratitude. Remember how grateful you were when your soul mate entered your life? Why stop being grateful for their presence? Celebrate and rejoice each and every day that this special person is a significant part of your life. Being grateful for your great life is one of the most important components of the Law of Attraction.
* Appreciation. Do you still appreciate all those special things that your soul mate does for you? How long since you told them or showed them? Have you stopped appreciating them and fallen into the trap of complaining? This is easy to do once you start to fall into your comfort zone. However, you should not stop tying to impress your soul mate once you have them.
Do you still appreciate the fact that they do the groceries on the way home from the office, or are you too busy complaining that they forgot your special request (which you could have gotten yourself)? If this is sounding familiar, you need to change your behaviour quickly.
* Compliment them. Everybody loves to be complimented and noticed. Females in particular can often easily feel overlooked. If your partner’s new hair style makes them look 10 years younger and 7 pounds lighter, tell them. It is very easy to notice, but to forget to mention. Take note and compliment the new outfit, the taut body, or whatever. In reality, your partner is partly making an effort for you. So feel flattered, compliment them, and they will feel cherished and motivated to keep on looking and doing their best.
“They lived happily ever after” does happen in real life. The reality is that to live happily ever after with your soul mate requires continual maintenance. However, after time, all these little positive actions will become habits which you will not have to think about so much. You have opened up your heart and your mind to your soul mate using the powers of the Law of Attraction with gratitude and appreciation. Keep your soul mate by your side with those same emotions.
Celebrate each and every day that you have a soul mate by your side. Remember to be thankful and grateful for their presence. Show them and tell them that you are pleased that they are by your side for a lasting and happy relationship. The Law of Attraction is a powerful and positive approach to enriching your life and your relationship. One you have your soul mate in your life it is important to keep implementing the same tools for a lasting and passionate relationship.
Be honest. Would you be attracted to you right now? No? Well then why would anyone else want to date you? It kind of makes sense once you think about it, doesn’t it? This is one of the foundations that the Law of Attraction is based upon.
One great advantage to being single is that it gives you some time for contemplation. Is your life how you would genuinely like it to be? Well, now is the time to correct that. Spend some time figuring out how you can improve your life and make it what you want it to be. Do not be concerned with being distracted by what others want you to do with your life. Think long and hard about what you want. There is absolutely no point being a rocket scientist, a brain surgeon, or a tax attorney if you are only pleasing your family. It is your life, not theirs.
Do you work too long in the office? Would you like to be fitter, or more creative? Once you have determined how your life could be bettered then you need to start working on that. Join a gym, or a craft group. Make a determined effort to leave the office at an earlier time once in a while, or regularly.
Once you have started becoming the person you would prefer to be you may start to notice that you will be attracting a different style of single to the past. One reason is that the Law of Attraction has started to work. Remember, like attracts like. The second reason is that the more you like yourself the more others will like you as well. If you have no respect for yourself, why should anyone else? If you seem to be satisfied with yourself, then others will be too.
Once you have joined a gym, an art group, or started mingling in the places that you would prefer to socialize, you will start to meet other like minded singles. Again, this makes sense once you think about it. If you want a heavy drinking barfly, hang out in a bar. If you prefer a more cultured individual, than you need to start visiting galleries, museums, exhibitions, and the like. If you prefer the athletic type, join a gym or a health club.
Once you have accepted your genuine self, others will too. Your self honesty and self esteem will shine through and make you far more attractive to others. Accept yourself for what you are. Get rid of the habits that are not genuinely you. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and become more independent. We all know what a turn on it is to meet people who are comfortable in their own skin and are happy to march to the beat of their own drum.
The Law of Attraction strongly works on like attracting like. If you wouldn’t want to date you right now, why would anyone else? Discover your authentic self and your soul mate will not be too far behind.
Feng shui is an ancient Chinese tradition that shares some traits with the Law of Attraction. They both utilize univeral laws to increase positive energy (in Chinese this energy is Qi, prounced “chi”). The practice of feng shui today is to help individuals and organizations structure their physical selves and homes in a way so that positive energy can more easily flow. See the correlation? Exciting stuff, huh? We discuss clutter and how it blocks your positive energy on this blog and in my ebook Sex and the Universe. Let’s see how feng shui can help us do this more effectively…
Feng shui can be seen as “thoughtful placement” per Karen Rauch Carter, author of “Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life“. To utilize the principles of feng shui effectively, it helps to know what you want! In this case, it’s pretty clear you want to attract love into your life and there are feng shui steps to doing so! For seeking love you want to focus your attention on overall Qi flow improvement throughout your home, AND focus specific attention on the bedroom.
You get the picture, right? All of this sets the universe in motion to give you what you have set the stage for! Books on feng shui compliment Sex and the Universe nicely. Now go get your love Qi flowing!
Of course if you are seeking to find a relationship then chances are pretty strong that you are going to want someone that you have things in common with. For example, if you are physically fit, like to work out and watch your diets then you are not going to want to try and pair up with someone that could care less about those things. Your first call of action is to figure out what it is that you do want from a relationship.
Sometimes the easiest way to accomplish this is to figure out first what it is that you do not want. Make a written list of likes and dislikes as this is surely to give you a very keen observation of what it is that you have been focusing all of your attention and efforts on. Focus further on nothing but the positive that you have written down and keep pumping the universe with those positive thoughts.
If you resist what it is that you say that you want then you will not get it. In other words you can not say this is what I want and then resist it. If you say you want this beautiful, fun loving new relationship but you focus upon the lack of it – you’re going to get the lack of it. Keep a visual going in your mind about your perfect partner just as if this person was already real, named and had a face. Again, remember to focus on only positive qualities and ignore any negative.
Your entire world is a reflection of what you focus on. If you don’t like what is going on around you and who you seem to be attracting then you have to start changing your thought process on the inside in order to mend the outside. Everything in the universe is made of energy; energy vibrates, and those vibrations attract like vibrations.
As you vibrate, you attract. Do you approach each new love interest with an inner fear and expectation that they won’t like you once they get to know her? Are you braced for rejection before you even have the first date? If this sounds like you then you are vibrating rejection and that is what will happen each and every time. If you have relationships or not they are a reflection of what it is that you think and feel.
The Law of Attraction is a very powerful force which affects our lives. We attract into our lives what we focus on and put our emotions and attention on. When talking about the law of attraction in relationships most of us want to know if it is possible to attract not just any person into our lives but rather a specific type of person and how to go about doing so.
The funny thing is that we attract people into our lives that we are vibrating at on either a conscious or subconscious level. If your world keeps attracting the wrong matches for a relationship then you must change what you are vibrating about. Once you find a perfect match is when the Law of Attraction becomes the most obvious. If you are depressed and feeling blue, notice that more people appear that may call you just to complain and that everyone you around seems down and depressed too.
Thoughts are everything! Consider this, the people that you know are not thinking bad and negative thoughts because they are in bad situations but rather they are in bad and negative situations because of their way of thought. Your thought process can actually continually bring about circumstances in their lives that are in complete opposition to what it is they claim that they have a desire to experience. You might walk around complaining that you are so tired of being single and unable to find a match for a relationship. By saying that, you are only setting the table for you to continue to be single and unable to find a perfect mate.
You must focus your mind on what it is that you want and not what you are lacking. Once you firmly and undoubtedly believe that something will happen then your thoughts will ignite and harmonize with to attract to you everything that it was that you wanted and believed that you were going to get.
You can call it whatever you want to, reaping what you sow, Karma, cause and effect, the Universal Law of Attraction, basically it is the same regardless of what you call it. To get the love life that you are in search of by using the Law of Attraction you should practice regular visualization techniques. In order to visualize what it is that you want you have to know what it is that you want first. Are you focusing all of your attention on getting a specific person rather than identifying the type of relationship that you long for? Don’t try to fit a square peg into a round hole because it will not work.
