sex and the universe

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!

I came across a Twitter tweet from Sam Crowley that said “Saturday night is always date night for Mr. and Mrs. Crowley. Off to our favorite restaurant.” If you don’t know what a Twitter tweet is, please go here. If you do already, read on! We talk a lot here at our Sex and the Universe blog about finding, but also keeping love and this tweet struck me as both very sweet and very important. When you use the Law of Attraction, or if you already have, to find the love of your life, you must invest an equal amount of time, if not more, in letting your mate know how much you care and how important they are. “Date night”, especially when you have children and busy careers, is one way to really share this message, but what are some others?

One of the first things to go in long-term relationships seems to be common courtesy. It gets awfully easy to be lazy and not treat your loved one as a dear friend, at minimum. I have a friend who says that having her husband bring in a cup of coffee each morning while she is trying to wake up is one of the smallest and yet most important ways that he says “I love you”. It starts her day off feeling cared for! One busy wife always cooks Sunday morning breakfast and she and her husband share it in bed, no kids! They’ve done this since they were first married. Do you still say please and thank you? Do you leave a fresh towel in the bathroom if you’ve used the last one (or another roll of toilet paper)? Do you let your lover sleep in while you let the pets out first thing in the morning? These are all examples of common courtesies that go a very long way towards building a strong and lasting relationship.

Another category is the element of surprise! Are you ever waiting for your honey when they get off of work to surprise them with a dinner out or concert tickets? Are you actively (though not cloyingly) observing the things your partner loves or dreams of? Part of loving someone is trying to help make their dreams come true. What dreams are you helping with? They can be small…if your boyfriend is working really hard, sneak in and clean up for them a bit or take the car to the car wash. The list is endless.

Regardless, this is a lifelong endeavor as Mr. and Mrs. Crowley have indicated. Yes, the Law of Attraction helps draw and keep your lover but you have to commit to the daily work as well. I’d love to hear what you do to keep your love alive (or what you’ve witnessed others do?)!

Image source

Feng shui is an ancient Chinese tradition that shares some traits with the Law of Attraction. They both utilize univeral laws to increase positive energy (in Chinese this energy is Qi, prounced “chi”). The practice of feng shui today is to help individuals and organizations structure their physical selves and homes in a way so that positive energy can more easily flow. See the correlation? Exciting stuff, huh? We discuss clutter and how it blocks your positive energy on this blog and in my ebook Sex and the Universe. Let’s see how feng shui can help us do this more effectively…

Feng shui can be seen as “thoughtful placement” per Karen Rauch Carter, author of “Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life“. To utilize the principles of feng shui effectively, it helps to know what you want! In this case, it’s pretty clear you want to attract love into your life and there are feng shui steps to doing so! For seeking love you want to focus your attention on overall Qi flow improvement throughout your home, AND focus specific attention on the bedroom.

• De-clutter everywhere. This helps the Qi flow. Pay particular attention to decluttering the bedroom.
• Spruce up. Repaint to renew your space. Replace linens and fix broken items.
• Images of single women or men in paintings or prints should be removed. You want images of happy couples if anything.
• Don’t watch tv in the bedroom. The tv should be removed so that no negative imagery is viewed there.
• Traditional feng shui says you should place natural quartz crystals and red, white and yellow lights in the southwest corner of your bedroom. Hey, give it a try! It can’t hurt!
• The bedroom should be balanced between masculine and feminine styles.
• Rid the bedroom of any and all mementos of past relationships!
• Make sure your bed is large enough, you have two nightstands, and there is room in a closet and the dresser to welcome your new partner.
• Set out things in sets of two: two candles, two ceramic birds, two vases.
• Add in the sensual: massage oils, powders, scent diffusers…and more.

You get the picture, right? All of this sets the universe in motion to give you what you have set the stage for! Books on feng shui compliment Sex and the Universe nicely. Now go get your love Qi flowing!

During one date, just one little date, there is so much information that can be put right out there on the table about each person. Maybe that is why there are so many dates that never result in a second date. Using the Law of Attraction says that you will attract what you are focusing on. Let’s discuss what that means for a minute, wouldn’t that mean that if you think negatively or focus on the negative aspects of your life, you will receive negative things in return. But, if you do the opposite then the opposite will come your way.

Although it may seem quite simple, especially in the world of dating, I assure you it is not as easy as it seems. Almost everyone has had at least one date with someone who was hell bent on every negative part of their life and felt that they needed to share every detail. It doesn’t matter if this person was dripping in sexiness and was nothing short of a ten in the looks category. Looks can really only get you so far and relationships that fall short of real attraction barely ever succeed.

Yep, one date can tell so much about you, how you live, how you work, and often what type of lover you will be too. If you are seeking a relationship and at the same time implementing the Law of Attraction you will be able to only focus on good things, the good parts of dating by just being excited to meet someone new.

Think of some of the negative things that you could say or focus on that might give your date a bad first impression. Now these are things that speak volumes and would not be coming out of your mouth if you were using the Law of Attraction. Talking about past dates at all but especially in a negative manner, how much you dislike your job, whining about getting up early the next day, being cheap, being overly aggressive, etc. Not many girls are going to enjoy this and are going to think that you are cheap and lazy.

You would not be speaking and acting this way if you were focusing on how great it was to be out with someone new, finding out a little about them and what they like to do. Just being grateful for the moments of that evening and that is what will get you a next date card. Think all positive and nothing negative and see how far it is going to get you!